Fall For Me

Fall is one of my favorite times of year. I love the sights and sounds of this season so much because they truly stimulate my senses. For me Fall equals more fires (firepits, bonfires, fires in the fire place, and candles everywhere), hot chocolate with marshmallows, pumpkin everything, colorful leaves, comfort food, preserving my favorite fruits and vegetables, slow cooking home-made soups and casseroles, and curling up with a good read. Books have always been a must have in my life because they transport me to another dimension. I continue to read for pleasure, professional education and personal enlightenment.

There are so many things that I love to do all year long, but Fall in simply a time of letting life simmer. I enjoy keeping busy during the Fall with comforting activities. This is also a time of introspection and enhanced learning. In the context of learning and keeping busy, since my last share I have had a few exciting events happen in my life: I married (the love of my life – hence the hypenation of my last name), acquired my International Sexologist Certification, began the second year of my Ph.D. program, completed my Usui Reiki Certification, and began my Clinical Aromatherapy Certification program. I am beginning my Clinical Hypnosis Certification training and I am loving it! My life is filled with thrilling possibilities and promises right now and I am simply enjoying every single moment.




There is a plethora of ways to bring about change to your sex life and aromatherapy is one that is often overlooked. Essential oils (the blood of plants and flowers) carry strong scents that have been used for centuries in conjunction with therapeutic baths, massages and even in room fragrances to relieve stress and depression and to usher in a sense of tranquility and peace. Although Eastern cultures have adopted the practice in holistic healing, Western culture has just begun to explore the many benefits of aroma therapy. Aromatherapy is traditionally the inhalation of essential oils through a variety of methods to promote health and well being.

The sense of smell is all powerful in being able to shift the emotions and consciousness of living beings. Certain scents can make you hungry or cause you to become nostalgic, thinking of a memory associated with the observed smell (e.g., the natural scent of your lover’s musk or the scent of wildflowers thar reminds you of the park where you strolled with your new love on a first date, or the scent of jasmine or roses that was in the air when you had your first kiss, etc…). Some scents can cause people to become happy whereas others can create a sense of melancholy in others. No matter what the reaction of the scent, it has been proven that our sense of smell has a direct effect on our emotional state, and sexuality isn’t impervious to these same affects.

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Scents help to ground us and bring us back to our body. Fragrance directly affects our consciousness. Essential oils affect the body in several ways. Aromatherapy stimulates the limbic system in the brain where emotional memory is stored. The sense of smell and the sex drive are connected. Scent travels along a neurological pathway, bypassing the blood brain barrier. The limbic system, at the back of the brain, is associated with memory, emotion and learning. When essential oils are smelled they can have a powerful effect on the emotional body and can stimulate the production of neurotransmitters.

Sexual functioning issues are often connected to the body’s energy system. The sacral chakra (located between the genitals and the naval) is most often connected to our sexuality. The gonads are located within the sacral chakra. Blockages in this chakra can manifest themselves as psychodynamic sexual disturbances. The sacral chakra is orientated to our self gratification, physical comfort, satisfaction and sexuality on a psychological level. We regulate our feelings and our emotional expressions from the sacral chakra.

The sacral chakra is the sphere of desires, physical pleasures and happiness. It is also the home of the five senses. We are connected to our feelings and our sense of physical balance through this chakra. When the sacral chakra is blocked, the body’s own natural ease and balance may seem to be missing. There will be a release of pent-up emotions when the blockage in this chakra is released and physically the body will regain its fluidity and gracefulness.

Aromatherapy oils commonly associated with the sacral chakra are; ylang ylang, jasmine, patchouli, sandalwood, rose, frankincense, chamomile, vetiver, myrrh, cinnamon, black pepper and cedarwood. Using essential oils to unblock chakras work with the idea that the oil’s individual vibrational pattern will impart itself into the chakra, making the chakra imitate the vibration, bringing balance back to that individual chakra.

I plan to use my aromatherapy training to help women connect with their Eco-Sexuality by examining the complex art of Aromatherapy & Arousal. I am creating my own line of Essential B.L.U.S.H (Eco-Provocative Scents) – Arousing Scents that I have developed as a result of my background and training in aromatherapy and herbs.

What’s next for me? Stay tuned and find out; at least that’s what I always tell myself because at times even I don’t know what I will do next. I leave that answer up to the universe.


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